This is what you wanted, you dickhead...

 Jumping at every *ding* your mobile makes and jumping into your inbox to find another Very Important piece of spam or bill is no way to live. There are a couple of emails I'm waiting on, and it feels like life is on hold until they arrive. My brain is full of plans that are made and queued up, waiting for that whistle to sound so I can pull the trigger and send them all over the top. 

It's a far cry from where I was a year ago, when things were unexciting, but ran seemingly on rails. One foot went in front of the other, jobs got done, invoices issued, the sun rose and fell in rhythmic cadence, and time passed barely leaving a mark. 
Or a year before that, when the breeze carried the whisper of pages turning towards the final chapter of books I was thoroughly sick of reading, the night air smelled of rubble settling after the implosion of Happily Ever After, and each breath out of my lungs exhaled the smoke of burned offerings to burdens unshouldered blending with the funeral-pyres of stillborn hope. 

I managed to get through nearly two years of Not Wanting Things; someone told me once "the secret of zen is to want what you have", although I've never been able to find a citation. Regardless, I had an empty house, a job to do, things to fix, and that was enough. Then one day I followed a white rabbit into a hole full of wonderful problems to solve, impossibly broken dreams to fix, and gordian knots to untangle. Somewhere along the line I started having fun cutting through the labyrinthine webs that seemed to completely bamboozle everyone around me, as if my mind was a razer in a drawer full of butter-knives; more fun that I could remember ever having had before. 

"If you want to make God laugh," Woody Allen said, "tell him your plans." 
Pete Townsend, on the other hand, said "We've got to fool the fools, and plan the plans."
I took inspiration from Plato, and thought "Well I am a fool, but I know I am a fool and that makes makes me smarter than you, so I'll make no plans at all and stay the fuck out of God's way." 

Of course, in my smugness I forgot the that Philip J. Fry was wiser than all of us, because "time makes fools of us all." 

“There is an art," it says in the second of the Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy books, "or rather, a knack to flying. The knack lies in learning how to throw yourself at the ground and miss." 

So in my hubris, and my "Life, the Universe, and Everything" Year I tripped, mistook falling for flight, and somewhere in that mad tumble I started Wanting Things again. 

The problem with Wanting Things is when you start achieving them. One minute you're a machete carving through chocolate soldiers melting in the sun, the next it's gone dark, you're cold, surrounded by intimidating-looking shadows, and you realise the brown stuff you're covered in doesn't smell much like chocolate. You got everything you never dreamed you'd be allowed to want, let alone have, and instead of satisfaction you just feel like shit. 

That's what you get for Wanting Things. 

The trap I blundered into, and what annoys me most, was allowing myself to hope. I thought I'd inoculated myself against that insidious traitor of an emotion; "If I don't have a life, I don't have to live," I thought, "then I can have nothing, and want what I have. Simples." In one pithy, self-satisfied gesture I'd outsmarted Dostoyevsky, out-humbled Buddah, and walked away throwing an over-the-shoulder double-deuce to God whilst Nietzsche sat stunned in my wake muttering "Verdammt, das ist nihilistisch." 

The ground was already rushing up towards me at what I would have noticed was an alarming rate, if only I'd been paying attention, when I returned to the stage for an encore. The other day I twisted my brain into the necessary shape so I could write something hopeful. A gift, in my own peculiar way; a bit of fun for the Penpal of whom I've become quite fond. If I'd not been so busily patting myself on the back for bending Plato over I'd have been watching it for Aristotle's revenge; nature abhors a vacuum, and for all that I'd constructed an edifice of emptiness, entropy will get you in the end. 

It's impossible to feed an intelligent system new information without indelibly changing it. Like when IBM fed Watson the Urban Dictionary to help it communicate more fluently, there's no way to remove the influence on your thought patterns. Unlike IBM, I can't just revert to a previous snapshot and clear my input cache. The worst thing is realising that even if I could, the origin of my downfall occurred long-before, and all the Cooking Wine in Alkaline Trio won't wipe the slate clean. I wrote it down, I made it true, I burst my own bubble, and collapsed my own wave function. 

I have only myself to blame. 

So here I sit in my inbox staring up guiltily up at the look of despair on my face, somehow surprised that I was the void all along, whilst we both wait for our respective emails to arrive to tell us whether we're alive or dead. 

I am, it seems, Schrödinger's Dickhead... 

Penpal - And now for something completely different...

 Thinking, thinking, always thinking;
ideas, memories, smells and colours;
Sifting, parsing, sometimes recombining.

Friday evening has been bouncing around my head, as you can only presume from receiving your second email in two days (not counting corrections), two (effectively) strangers finding something akin to joy through the sharing of their respective misery. It occurs that my emails cleave closely to that sort of theme - there are jokes and laughter, but in a "teeth gritted through the pain" sort of way. I decided it was time for a reframe and tone-shift, so I set myself a challenge: I'm going to try writing something hopeful (because 'happy' is a bridge too far).

To select your soundtrack for this I delved into my music collection to find something suitable and came up with Angels & Airwaves. It's not happy (I mean, it's Tom de Longe after all, and by the time they recorded their third album he was so badly messed up on opioids he barely knew what day it was), but I've always found them light (as in full of). Three songs, because you said you read these three times, which suits me nicely because this is me and I've always found both balance and completeness in three.

Heaven
Valkyrie Missile
The Flight of Apollo

I'm declaring this at the start because I have no idea how, or what, or where this is going. I'm taking you with me on a ride. We may go round in circles, or nowhere, or crash and burn, but you're finding out in real-time, same way I am, and only when I'm done do you have my permission to cry.

Now strap in and let's do this. 

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My email yesterday was bashed out sitting in Haig Park, killing a couple of hours before my friend Marcia was free. A stretch of dead time filling the nothingness in my schedule between when I needed to leave one place,  before I had any reason to be at another.

It was far from an unpleasant place to be - cool, quiet, and still. I usually write these sitting in my hacked-by-hand reclaimed kerbside-shopping-network chair under the tattered remnants of my solar-powered gazebo, but if I was going to do something different, a change of scenery was called for. I stuck A&A in my ears (OK, I did a little bit of prep), got my bike's battery on the charge so it'd start, slammed the bare-minimum chores out of the way before grabbing groceries so there'd be food in my fridge (not just condiments), ditched the car, pulled my helmet on and twisted the throttle, propelling myself to the place I had in mind:

I've just had to move to follow the shade, by the way.

I've been coming here for almost as long as I've had autonomy; on days like this in my teens I used to ride my bike to the river (10ish-km), then follow it along the far side from here another 10-15km before turning around and heading back. Later in high school my best friend lived a couple of streets away and we'd come down at night to feel transgressive. Later we'd steal some beers from his dad (or play on how I looked older than I was and go to the bottlo) and do the "rebellious teen drinking" thing. When I moved back in 2010 I'd strap my roller blades on a bit east of here, skate a couple of km's west into the wind and back again. Here I've had picnics, watched the Australia Day fireworks, and brought tourists to look at the city lights. When I was still with Jenna, Kat and I would hang around the picnic tables, chain-smoke and talk about everything and nothing. It's been the setting for both first and last kisses, and many of those in between. It's pretty, and peaceful, and alive. It felt like a perfect place for this purpose. 

Welcome, glad you've come,
To my favorite place in Perth.
I hope you like it.

There's a group of girls (young ladies?) playing kick-to-kick off to my left; joggers chasing after fitness dodging families taking a stroll; dogs being taken for walks and Smelling All The Things(!); whilst I sit here with my laptop and A&A in my ears, apart from them all, but in the wide-angle panoramic shot it looks like I'm a part of it.

I used to use Mt Ainslie in the same way:

Above, but amongst.
A quiet perch to watch from.
Apart, but a part.

Where I am, where I'm going, and where I want to be, are rarely the same location. That feeling of satisfaction, comfort, contentment, seems so incomprehensible. That sense of being the right person, in the right place, at the right time, eternally elusive and just out of reach. Watching this perpetual parade of peaceful people, I wonder if their perceptions are parallel, whether they ponder as they pass their places in this performance? I don't know, and somehow I suspect that if I were to ask them neither of us would understand. If we spent a lifetime trying, we'd never grok each other; the terms of reference in our language are too far out of phase. 

There's a beautiful paragraph in Stranger in a Strange Land where Heinlein explains the word "grok":

"Grok means 'to understand', of course, but Dr. Mahmoud, who might be termed the leading Terran expert on Martians, explains that it also means, 'to drink', and 'a hundred other English words, words which we think of as antithetical concepts. It means 'fear', it means 'love', it means 'hate' - proper hate, for by the Martian 'map' you cannot hate anything unless you grok it, understand it so thoroughly that you merge with it and it merges with you - then you can hate it. By hating yourself. But this implies that you love it, too, and cherish it and would not have it otherwise. Then you can hate - and (I think) Martian hate is an emotion so black that the nearest human equivalent could only be called mild distaste."

I don't need to describe to you what a curse it is to see everything, all at once, as it really is.
I won't even try expressing the indescribable gift that is to be seen, known, and accepted; not for what you were, what they want you to be, or might one day become; but for who, how, and what you are. To have someone say "I see you" and not try to guess who, or how, or what they perceive. 
Nor will I make an attempt at the sense of explosive stillness, thunderous calm, or cacophonous peace from not having to wonder. 

I do, however, find it rather pleasant.

Now, I think it's time to pack my laptop away again and slip into jinba ittai. 

Regards, 

Peter.